I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son. When he commits iniquity, I will discipline him with the rod of men, with the stripes of the sons of men, but my steadfast love will not depart from him
Love and discipline are not at odds according to the Bible. If you love, you discipline. When you discipline, you do so in love. You are a missionary, on a rescue mission, lovingly training your children to walk in the way of the Lord.
"I love them too much to spank them," knows neither the value of real instruction nor the perseverance of true love.