"Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of God and humanity... It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love." ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer (Letters and Paper from Prison)
A desire to rule does not a King make.
The crown provides the proper context and God-granted authority to rule.
A desire to love does not a marriage make.
Marriage provides the proper context and God-granted ability to love.