1 Corinthians 14:4
The person who speaks in another language builds himself up, but he who prophesies builds up the church.
1 Corinthians 14:12
So also you—since you are zealous for spiritual gifts, seek to excel in building up the church.
Why do you want what you want?
Do you want it to look good to others?
Do you want it to feel better about yourself?
Seek to build up the church in each and every blessing for which you long to receive.
The natural man seeks to build himself up.
The spiritual man seeks to build up the church.