Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
What most people mean when they said, "I love my friends," is that they like that their friends like them, they have fun with them, they enjoy them.
I love my friends like that.
Jesus died for His friends.
He's a better friend than I am and you are.
That shouldn't be a surprise.
The surprise should be in realizing how easily we make our friends into fodder for our own fetishes of self-love.