Wednesday, October 18, 2017

day no. 14,240: everything you wish you possessed

Genesis 37:4
But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peacefully to him.

When someone whose attention we crave gives their affection to another, we often end up despising the other rather than the one we are striving to please because our deepest desire is still to be the object of their affection. So when a child desires to be loved by a parent and that parent freely gives their love to a sibling, the child hates the sibling, not the parent for the lack of love they feel. Or when a spouse commits adultery, the wounded partner often lashes out against the other woman or man instead of their spouse. When we want to feel loved by someone in particular and they give that love to someone else, we cannot bring ourselves to hate the one we wish loved us. It is imprinted too deeply to deny. So all that passion is redirected at the one who has everything you wish you possessed: your father's love, your spouse's eye, etc…

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