“I cannot trust a man to control others who cannot control himself.” ― Robert E. Lee
Those who do not possess self-control cannot be given the privilege of controlling others. If you want to be in charge, you must first be in charge of yourself.
"Authority flows to those who take responsibility." ― Douglas Wilson
Taking responsibility means refusing to make excuses. And that comes from recognizing that you are under authority. No earthly authority is absolute. Every king has a King. Every husband has a Husband. Every father has a Father. Every general has a General. Every master has a Master.
“Behavior that’s admired is the path to power among people everywhere.” — Beowulf, Unknown (Seamus Heaney translation)
So, if you want people to follow up, show them how. Follow God and demonstrate the fruit of His Spirit in self-control. People will gladly give their governing to those who have demonstrated the ability to govern themselves. When your behavior is admirable, your leadership is desirable. They're not called Admirals for nothing. People tend to admire them.
Matthew 8:9
For I too am a man under authority, with soldiers under me. And I say to one, ‘Go,’ and he goes, and to another, ‘Come,’ and he comes, and to my servant, ‘Do this,’ and he does it."
Those who are under authority will be given authority.
When the Roman Centurion wanted to give proof that he was a man under authority, he pointed to examples of people being under his authority. One man goes because he says, "Go," while another comes because he says, "Come." These initially seem like peculiar examples of being "under" authority. But don't miss the principle that the Centurion assumes. He believed that those who have authority must be under authority. Or said another way, those who desire to be in authority, must themselves first be under authority.
So, do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, in signing letters of recommendation, or in giving authority to those who are clamoring for it. Do not feel hard pressed to create opportunities for those who insist they're gifted at leading others. Rather, look for those who have faithfully placed themselves under authority and look for ways to give them a platform to produce more of the same downstream.
In other words, no one should be over until they are under.
The faith of the Centurion is believing that those who humble themselves will be exalted and that those who exalt themselves will be humbled. God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Place your faith in Jesus and find your place under His authority.