day no. 16,412: weaponized withholding

Galatians 4:17

They zealously affect you, but not well; yea, they would exclude you, that ye might affect them.

There are those who push you away in order to play hard to get. They don't exclude you because they want you excluded, but because they want you to want to be included. They weaponize withholding in order to entice you to desire their provision. They don't ultimately want to withhold. They want to give. But they want you to want it before they do. They don't want to keep you out. They want you in. But not before you feel excluded enough to clamor for admittance.