day no. 16,131: a married man's bishopric

“In his discussion on family worship, Knox delivered a solemn charge, ‘No, brethren, you are ordained of God to rule your own houses in His true fear, and according to His Word. Within your houses, I say, in some cases, you are bishops and kings; your wife, children, servants, and family are your bishopric and charge.'” -- Douglas Wilson, John Knox: Stalwart Courage

A married man is a pastor. A father is a pastor. God ordains a man to serve as the spiritual head of his home. He is commissioned by the Father to be a dad and by the Bridegroom to be a husband. 

1 Corinthians 11:3

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Wives are to obey and submit to their own husbands. Not men in general nor the husbands of others, but their own husband specifically. Children are to obey and submit to their fathers. Not fathers in general or those who happen to be the fathers of others, but their own father specifically.

There are, of course, things about men in general which should be respected, but submission and obedience are not owed to anyone simply because they happen to have a Y chromosome. The one who is your husband or your father, however, he is owed something; and to Knox's point, they owe you something in return.

1 Corinthians 14:35

And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

A man must be prepared for his wife to obey this verse. If she obeys God, who is she instructed to ask? A: Her husband. This presupposes that he should be prepared to answer theological questions and to lead his family in obeying God's Word. This assumes his bishopric and his attention to his duties thereof.